I made a Reader’s Guide for you

As you might already know, I’m both a psychotherapist AND an naCCT survivor dealing with my own set of cPTSD challenges, so I’m sharing with you some of the specific sections of the book that I still turn to when I’m called upon to respond to inner and outer challenges with some self-love and effectiveness. I hope and believe they’ll help you too.

With No Sticks or Stones No Broken Bones, you’re now in possession of a mighty book (115K words, 407 pages in the paperback), jam-packed with goodies for understanding and healing from cPTSD from non-physically-assaultive, attachment-based Chronic Covert Trauma (naCCT). You’ve got stories, concepts, research results, “how-to” activities, and Self-Talk Scripts. In fact, the book is so jam-packed that it can be overwhelming.

So I’ve put together a Reader’s Guide for you.


Here’s what you’ll find in the FREE What to Read When in No Sticks or Stones READER’S GUIDE

What to read for help with 21 common situations naCCT survivors are called upon to handle

This reader’s guide to No Sticks or Stones includes 21 situations, ranging from challenging to downright miserable, in which aftereffects of small ‘t’ trauma/naCCT can be playing a part.

And then it points to what you can read to get started resolving them.

For example,

if you find yourself belittling and invalidating your trauma because it “wasn’t that bad,”

  • You can read: “Too much Challenge, Not Enough Resources = Trauma”
    on paperback page 88 or eBook location 1825
  • Or read: “NaCCTs of Omission, Commission, and Unhelpful Help”
    on paperback page 93 or eBook location 1925.

For another example,

if you tend to help others and neglect yourself, finding yourself people-pleasing, being excessively responsible, skimping on self-care and/or not asking for help

  • You can read: “Jenna Lee Brings Compassion Home to Herself”
    on paperback page 30 or eBook location 672.
  • Or read: “Your Inner Helping Relationship”
    on paperback page 109 or eBook location 2190.

If you’ve already got a copy of No Sticks or Stones, go to these pages and give it a read. See if the simple act of turning to those sections brings about a little upward shift.

And that’s not all! Inside the free Reader’s Guide You also get

As many of these ready-for-you-to-fill-in pages as you need to record where to find your way back to the passages that spoke to you the most

To get the complete Reader’s Guide covering 21 everyday challenges and life situations faced by naCCT survivors and where to go in No Sticks or Stones for help coping with them, click this button:

So, what is this thing called naCCT?

Some adults suffer from unhealed early non-physical, attachment Chronic Covert Trauma from their primary relationships with mother, father, and other important caretakers in childhood. Maybe you or somebody you love is one of them. Read on….

Many folks believe that “If it isn’t dramatic physical harm, then it isn’t trauma.” That’s False. I call this “the materialistic myth” about trauma.

Two truths about trauma are

  1. Trauma is the wound caused by experiencing helpless terror, and
  2. Anything that causes you to fear for your life can be traumatic.

There are blatant single-incident overt physical traumas such as combat, rape and natural disasters.

And there are ongoing, hidden, intangible, covert traumas such as neglect, psychological isolation and emotional abuse.

Psychological wounds and long-term negative consequences arise from such intangibles as a parent’s being unempathic, unavailable, or even unwholesomely close to a vulnerable child.

Some traumas, especially those in primary human relationships, are so subtle you could be in the room when they were happening and not even know they were happening.

These traumas are the subtle, non-material relationship traumas I call non-physical, attachment Chronic Covert Traumas (naCCTs).

Chronic covert traumas in childhood and the Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) symptoms arising from them are implicated in significant adult mental health problems, including:

Mood disorders such as depression, anxiety, panic attacks

  • Addictive disorders such as overeating, cigarette smoking, drug and alcohol use
  • Physical problems such as chronic pain
  • Relationship problems such as codependence, shyness, feeling lonely
  • Borderline personality disorder, dissociative Identity disorder, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

And childhood Chronic Covert Traumas can drive smaller, but very bothersome, adult hassles, including

  • Vocational problems, such as fear of networking or public speaking
  • Thinking problems, such as suddenly feeling “stupid” or confused
  • Social problems, such not talking in meetings or at parties, or getting derailed if you are interrupted

Honor and heal these ordinary childhood non-physical, attachment Chronic Covert Traumas, and have a happier, more meaningful adult life today.